Sarah Jane Banahan, sex expert and hostess at London’s exclusive Play Experience parties, tells you how to knock on the back door, and get invited in.
Women like to be surprised. I read somewhere recently that now it is more respectful to “initiate” to your partner beforehand about wanting to try anal sex via text message, or phone call.
Oh please! How about a slight whisper in the ear while you penetrate your women, isn’t that just a little more erotic?
Surely that’s the point of good ol’ naughty, dirty sex?
It’s what the ladies love to get up to behind closed doors – a bit of Friday night kink, bondage, debauchery now and again. It may not be for everyone but I bet a fair few of us ladies have tried and tested.
Apparently, it is becoming as popular as vaginal sex. So much so it’s been said that “anal is the new pussy”.
But how to broach this tricky subject? If you’re fantasising about bending her over, then how about just turning those fantasies into reality, make her feel like the sexiest woman alive – undress her slowly, kiss her, tell her quietly you are going to penetrate her from behind then rub your penis over her anus first just to tease, so she can prepare herself in anticipation, then slowly push the tip inside her (if she’s into it, of course. No means no, gentlemen).
Be careful to read her reactions. In the early stages you may not be able to go as deep as you like without lubrication, but once she’s acclimatised she’ll arch her back and let you go into her a little more.
Reach around to feel her getting wetter the deeper and the more comfortable you both are, and adjust your speed accordingly, playing with her so that you climax at the same time.
Now isn’t that better than a pre-arranged dinner surprise? Anal has certainly featured in the best sex I’ve ever had and it’s always been a surprise.
[Via GQ UK]
Sarah Jane Banahan (above) is the Founder of The Play Experience, a professional model and entrepreneur. Follow her on Facebook and Instagram
